Finding My Own Rules

Before I decided to start taking my writing seriously I read a million and one books on writing. They talked about tropes, character types, how to build a fantasy world or how to create a fantastic fight scene, but not how to write a good book.

I spent years searching for someone or something to tell me what to write. Sure I had the ideas, the characters and the basic plot lines, but I was always so worried that people wouldn’t like my stories that I never finished anything.

My first draft of MISSING YOU, MISSING ME was finished in 2016. I was so excited I started looking for beta readers and I handed out a few copies and there was silence. Sure, I’ll be the first to admit my grammar is terrible and I can’t edit my own work to save my life, but not hearing anything is worse than hearing they didn’t like it. That led me to putting the book aside and stop heavily writing for almost a year.

But then, one day I heard something that resonated with me. Write the book that you want to read. That first draft should be for you. So, I went back, picked MYMM back up and rewrote the book that I wanted. I didn’t lower the heat level to make sure my grandma could read it, or add more spice to get that “fifty shades market” as I like to call it. I wrote the book how I felt was right. And for the most part, that is the book that was published.

I am still beyond proud of myself not only for publishing it, but for sticking to my guns and keeping the book how it was. However, while working to publish my second book I realized something: I can’t 100% think like that anymore.

I know I am a super small fry in the vast ocean of the romance world. I just reached the 100 books sold this week, in fact. (Yay me!) But of those that have read it have contacted me, telling me how much they loved the book and they can not wait for the second book in the series. That is a thrill like no other. Seriously. Everyone who has loved my book, forced me to get off my butt, and write book three. Without you all I would be writing at a much slower pace.

But these readers have expectations. To label a book a romance it HAS to have a happily ever after, or HEA. No if, ands, or butts. If you don’t have it, its not romance. That doesn’t make the book bad, but it can disappoint the reader and being a reader myself, I understand the frustrations and there’s a chance I might not buy the next book. That author ruined it for me. I was waiting for that satisfying resolution and if I don’t get that, why would I want to spend the money again?

So now, I can’t write books only for myself. I have an obligation to my readers to give them a great book that will want them to continue reading my next book. I can’t be a successful, full time author if I have no one reading the books. I’m torn. They say “Kill your darlings,” but seeing what I see now, I know that killing my darlings would be the easy way out.

It’s kind of funny. I spent years waiting for people to tell me what to write, and now that I’m getting responses and agree with them, it’s harder than I thought it’d be. I don’t mind reworking what I know needs it, but I think I will continue writing under my rule, but with some slight alterations: Dream first, then Work.

Release Day!

So, today has been a huge day for me. I officially published my first book. It’s an odd feeling. I’m nervous, relieved, and a little irritated.

First, the nerves. Oh the nerves. What if people don’t like my book? What if my family reads the sex scenes and totally judge me at our next get together? Are people going to make fun of me behind my back about it? What if NO ONE reads it? What if I put all this time, effort, and money into this book and it doesn’t get seen. Will no one feel the passion I put into this work? Will I be able to pay to publish book 2? What should I have done instead? Should I have done traditional publishing? Oh, wait, that is one question I don’t have. I am so proud of myself for doing this on my own.

I feared that lack of control over my book. Much like Cleo, I had to make a difficult choice and took control of my destiny. I have absolutely no regrets over taking this route in publishing. Why? Well, for one my cover is AMAZING. I didn’t make it, but I picked it. I spent hours, days, looking for this cover and when I found it I knew that it was perfect. Secondly, the story itself. My book has some scenes that aren’t exactly pretty. I was worried that someone would tell me to remove it or leave and I didn’t want to even consider it. I wrote the book how I needed it to be. I am so happy with my final product.

Which brings me to my second strong emotion of the night: relief. If I never read the first chapter of this book ever again it will be too soon. Before I gave this book to a professional to edit, I had read it front to back about 12 times. I ran it through grammerly, my own version of editing about 8 times and then 3 times with a professional editor. If there are mistakes, to be honest I don’t care anymore! I mean, I do. I really do. I take pride in my work just like anyone else, and I hope that there aren’t too many issues. Fingers crossed! But overall, I am satisfied enough to hit publish and let the world have my book.

And lastly, I am irritated. I seriously thought I’d have about 500 dollars by now. WTF.

On a more serious note, I want to talk about my book for a moment. ‘Missing You, Missing Me’ started with a dream. I think I mention it in my acknowledgements, but I still like to bring it up. I still see this dream so vividly in my head. It was years ago, and the faces have blurred and the words scrambled, but their emotions in that parking lot, while they are screaming at each other still stay with me. I remember that being the first scene I wrote for this book. Without it, there would be no Cleo and Ethan.

For the few people who had the opportunity to read my book ahead of time, they all said the same thing about my book. These characters are real. They aren’t all sunshine and rainbows. They aren’t perfect, they are so far from it most of the time I think people begin to relate to that a bit. That was my goal. When writing these two characters, I wanted to make them horrible, horrible people. Why? Because I wanted it to feel real. I put my heart into this, and I hope all of you who read my book feel that too.

So, enjoy the book. Let me know what you think. I would love to hear from every single one of you. Everyone’s amazing support helped make this happen. Just as a thank you to all of you, look ahead for my next blog post. Inside will be a short story featuring Cleo and Ethan. It will only be published here! Just a little thing from me to you!

Below are links to my books. Please buy one and leave a review. I’ll love you forever if you do! Also, since I haven’t decided how to sign my paperback books (I AM WORKING ON IT PLEASE STOP ASKING, I AM DOING MY BEST) I will end this whole little thing with a quote from a man who has inspired me so much.

“Go out in the world and fuck it up beautifully.” – John Waters

Thank you,

Tylor Paige



Blog take over! Welcome Diane Burton!

Thanks, Ty, for having me on your blog today. I enjoyed talking with you at Mid-Michigan RWA’s Retreat From Harsh Reality last spring. It’s always great to meet new (to me) writers.

In my new release, NUMBERS NEVER LIE, a romantic suspense, the main character, Maggie Sinclair, teaches high school English (or Humanities). Like Maggie, I used to teach—only I preferred the younger kids, grades 1-6. For almost 10 years before I had my own children, I taught elementary school. Later, I substituted in elementary and middle school. I discovered how much I disliked those middle school ages (grades 6-8). My daughter, on the other hand, loves that age. I admire teachers who enjoy teaching older kids. They need, and deserve, teachers who care about them.

Like Maggie. She has a great sense of humor and a deep concern for older kids, which she isn’t shy about mentioning to Drew Campbell regarding his 14-year-old daughter, Ellen. In the past year, she lost her mother (car accident) and her beloved camping leader (who moved). Double loss. Often, Drew works late and on weekends. What he hasn’t shared with anyone is that he’s leaving the law firm, where he’s a partner, to open his own office. Then, he’ll have more time.Maggie chastises him often that he has to make time for his daughter now.

Maggie’s folks took her and her brother camping often. A Girl Scout Gold Awardee, she camped often with her best friend. When that friend organized a group of young girls who wanted to camp, she immediately enlisted Maggie as her co-leader. But last summer, the friend moved away, leaving Maggie with the group. As much as she wants to camp with the girls, Maggie won’t take them alone. She needs another adult. Nobody volunteers. Until Ellen said her dad would help. Poor Drew. He has not idea what he volunteered for.

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June Update- BIG NEWS!

Hello again, all two people who check out my blog!
I have a big announcement to make. This news is exciting and terrifying all at once. I  teased it a little on my twitter (@TylorPaige) and my facebook page (Author Tylor Paige) but I am finally ready to share: I am switching from traditional publishing to indie publishing.
What exactly does this mean? Pretty much, I am no longer querying agents in hope that I can get my book published by a publishing house. My new plan is to self publish my own books. That’s right, not just the one I have finished. ALL OF THEM.
Now, before anything else I want to say that querying has not gotten me down. AT ALL. Actually, I kind of like it. I get an exciting little rush when I finish one and push send. Its hard work and I am proud of my rejections. That was not the reason I chose to go a different way.
At the MMRWA (Mid- Michigan Romance Writers of America) retreat from harsh reality, I met a number of indie authors and I picked their brains a little. I am going to be honest here, before I joined the RWA I always kind of scoffed at self pubbing. I felt like it was the easy way out and that most books were terrible and full of so much grammar and content mistakes that I wanted nothing to do with them. Oh, how wrong I was.
Yes, many, many books out there right now are just that. Have you seen any of the #Cockygate or #Getloud stuff on twitter lately? They talk about stuffers, and other authors who are obviously not even trying, and just want the money. (I saw a book on Kindle that was titled “Pregnant with the boss’s brother in the swimming pool” or something so specific it was obnoxious, and had no thought put into it whatsoever)
But there are also so many other authors who are respected in the self published world. One of my favorite books (“Thoughtless” S.C. Stephens) was originally self published. Her books are now in barnes and nobles. That’s my ultimate goal. I want my books in stores. Until the retreat I had no idea it was possible.
They told me about different places their books are (Kindle, iBooks, Radish, Kobo) and that they do have physical copies of their books, some even in stores! So that got me thinking long and hard about my career. I want to be able to pick my own titles, my own covers, and get them to readers when I want. As great as traditional publishing is (and it really is a great thing), I don’t necessarily get those options anymore. Sure, they usually ask your opinion on them, but if they don’t like it, they change it.
That, paired with the fact that once I got an agent it could be another year to get a publisher on board, and then another year to actually have it released. I know it sounds impatient, (and I am a little) but I don’t want to play the waiting game for years. So after much, much consideration I have decided that this is the best route for me.
This was not an easy decision for me to make. I spent the last two months researching and going back and forth on it. I have queried about 60 agents, gotten responses from 20 or so. I kind of wish I hadn’t queried at all. I don’t want people to think I took the easier way out. I didn’t. In my opinion, choosing to become an indie author is way harder.
As good as having all the control is, that’s also one of the negatives. If you fail, its 100% because of you. I will have to do EVERYTHING. So with that in mind, I spent most of this last weekend making a business plan.
Well, a tentative start of a business plan to be real for a minute. But I have a goal and  am making this my second full time job. I do not have an official release date, I have to hire a professional editor still. In the meantime, I am looking at covers and all sorts of other great stuff!
I realize now that I am starting to ramble, so I am going to end with this. Thank you all for supporting me and my writing. I can’t wait to share my journey and coming soon, my book. 🙂
For now,
Tylor Paige

Omg! I have to add this because it made my day a little brighter. I just got a rejection letter from an agent who said that he liked my writing and that it was strong! (Just he wasn’t IN LOVE with it, but who cares MY WRITING IS STRONG!) 


May update!

Hello everyone! I haven’t been very active at all on my website. I have been pretty busy this month but I would love to update everyone on my progress.

So, last month I started querying agents. I have sent forty queries total so far. I have heard from thirteen, all rejections. I had two that were rather positive. One told me that rockstars aren’t really selling right now, and another said they liked my writing, but wasn’t feeling the story. So if I had something else to please send it their way. The rest were standard polite rejections.

I am still super positive about my querying. I knew going into this that I would have a ton of rejections. I am not looking at it as 13 rejections, but more I have 27 people to still hear from!

On the actual writing side I have officially started my second novel. I have titled it “Promising You, Promising Me”. It is the second novel in my four book “You and Me” series.

In my first book, “Missing You, Missing Me” we meet Cleo and Ethan. We get to follow the couple as they struggle to get their happily ever after. But now, I think it’s time to let some other people get the spotlight.

My second book we get to read about Adrian, Cleo’s bandmate and best friend. After a decade of one night stands Adrian starts to crave something more.

Chase Wilson is a police officer that has been moving through life not really looking for anything in particular. He’s had a few failed relationships, but he’s never let it break his spirit. He just wants to be happy.

Who knew the person they would meet the person they were looking for while doing the walk of shame?

Here are my character inspirations! Chase is the officer on the left, and my dearest Adrian is on the right.


Anyways, this is a huge project for me for many reasons. One, I have never written a full length book from a males point of view. Two, I am also not adding any sex scenes in this story. Everything will be closed door. I want to do this because many people think gay romances have to be graphic. I want to write a sweet romance.

I am about three chapters in, since I have been doing lots of plotting as well as querying. So, with that, I am going to get right back to it. I’d like to get at least ten more queries done today. Wish me luck!


I just wanted to start out with a huge thank you for coming to check out my site! I can’t wait to start sharing my writing journey with you!

I am currently submitting to agents for my first novel “Missing You Missing Me”. While I pursue a contract I am also working on the second book in the series, “Promising You Promising Me”.

Again, thank you for your time and please feel free to chat, ask, or inquire about anything you may want to discuss! I love meeting new people and can’t wait to share my stories with the world.